Helen Fisher (anthropologist)

Most of us make up our minds in the first three minutes of meeting someone whether there’s a potential for a relationship.

Helen Fisher

When you massage someone, the levels of oxytocin go up in the brain, and oxytocin is one of the chemicals that drives attachment.

Helen Fisher

You fall in love with somebody who fits within what I call your ‘love map,’ an unconscious list of traits that you build in childhood as you grow up. And I also think that you gravitate to certain people, actually, with somewhat complementary brain systems.

Helen Fisher

You’ve got to remember that men are men and women are women. And although a lot of similarities, there are some real differences.

Helen Fisher

Your face and head give more information about you than any other body part.

Helen Fisher

A hundred years ago, if you had a child out of marriage, you’d be a social disgrace. Today women feel comfortable enough economically and culturally to bring up a child without a recognized commitment from a man.

Helen Fisher

A lot of people have been romantically in love with somebody who they feel wasn’t appropriate to marry.

Helen Fisher

A lot of people head into courtship looking for fireworks. Don’t pass up a chance by dumping someone after a first date because you don’t feel the fireworks. The fireworks can happen at any time and be maintained.

Helen Fisher

Any time you choose not to hide your tattoo, you’re limiting your social sphere, because they’re not popular in big business.

Helen Fisher

As social animals, we need to exchange juicy tales about someone – to connect with one another. For millions of years our forebears must have sat around the campfire, whispering about everyone they knew.

Helen Fisher